Postpartum intimacy - sounds like an oxymoron right?
It’s a funny thing, the very act that produces babies is the thing most women want nothing to do with after giving birth. We all know how taxing having a newborn can be and the sleep deprivation that goes with it. My thought though is that is only 10% of the issue.
The biggest reason why postpartum women don’t want to be intimate with their partner the big ol 90% is that we don’t feel SEXY anymore. Or feel like we're lacking support and TLC from our spouse.
I am not one of those women who loves being pregnant, but, for some reason when I’m pregnant, I am way more able to be more carefree with my spouse when it comes to our intimate life. It took me 3 pregnancies to let go of unrealistic expectations, ideas of having the “healthiest most fit” pregancy ever and to pause for a minute and to remember to just enjoy my body; appreciate it for the incredible job it was doing making a baby. The effects of that made it’s way into the bedroom and totally made our relationship better.
When a woman has a baby she is reborn, she is not the same person she was before, and she, along with everyone else in her life, needs to give her time to find her bearings in this new self. This transition applies to all areas of her life including intimate relationships.