Finding My Village

The original post is on FIT4MOM San Diego blog.

It’s not easy being a mom. Especially a first-time mom, who at the ripe age of 33 decided to get married, have a kid, and give up a full-time job to stay at home with her son. I thought it was going to be a breeze. I often thought, “Woohoo! I can nurture and teach my son, keep a spotless house, have lunch with my girlfriends, and have a homemade dinner on the table by 6pm”. Haha. . .I’d like to go back in time and slap myself. Seriously, I had NO IDEA what an adjustment this would be.

I was having a hard time. I couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t get it together, and why I was so sad all the time. I had everything I wanted. . . an amazing and supportive husband, a beautiful son, and loads of loving friends and family, but I just couldn’t shake the sadness. Finally, I went to the doctor. BAM. . Postpartum Depression. “Well that explains a lot,” I thought.

I started trying to incorporate exercise into my daily routine to help with the depression. It did help: When I did it. Which wasn’t often because I didn’t want to exercise by myself. I would see ads online for Stroller Strides, and thought it sounded like fun, but there wasn’t one by me. Let’s face it, I’m already not super motivated to exercise, let alone have to drive 30 minutes to get there. I didn’t really know too many other moms in my neighborhood, and all my friends that have kids went back to work. After another month or so, I saw a Facebook post in our neighborhood Facebook page saying that FIT4MOM Stroller Strides was having a Grand Opening right down the street at Pala Mesa. I went to the Grand Opening (Sadly did NOT win the BOB stroller. . haha) and the rest is history.

Never in my life have I met such inspiring, loving and supportive women. EVER. I look forward to working out, and I’m happier than I’ve been in a long time. My son loves going out in the fresh air, and immediately squeals when we pull up and get the stroller out. The added benefit is I’m getting some exercise. That’s the icing on the cake. Our instructor, Stephanie, is an amazing leader. She sets the bar at what a genuine, caring and motivating leader should be. We always know our workouts will be fun, and never boring!

Looking back to this same time last year is night and day for me. I have some amazing, life-long friends all because of Stroller Strides. We are such a tight group, that even though we only work out Mon, Wed, Fri, we still talk to each other, and see each other almost every day. My son loves seeing his friends, and I love that I finally have a place where I feel like I belong. We’ve all been through so much together in such a short amount of time, and have become what feels like a little family. These moms have become my tribe, and FIT4MOM has become my village.