I am friends with dozens of working moms and dozens of stay at home moms. They all seem to think that the other one has the easier job of it.
Stay at home moms feel like they are always at work and never get a break. Their "colleagues" have tantrums and never say "good job."
Working moms feel like they are trying to do two full time jobs in one single day, never feeling that they are doing a great job in either space.
Stay at home moms feel like there are not enough hours in the day to keep the house in order, spend quality time with the kids and their spouse.
Working moms feel like there are not enough hours in the day to keep the house in order, spend quality times with their kids and their spouse.
Stay at home moms can't imagine what it would be like to miss a milestone in their child's life.
Work at home moms can't imagine what it would be like to live on one income or to not feel stimulated by her work.
Stay at home moms feel like they don't get any "me" time.
Working moms feel like they don't get any "me" time.
The long and short of it is that the grass is not greener on the other side. It's greener where you water it. The fact is that both jobs fill every hour of every day. Some days, it would be nice to be at home all day with your kids and bake cookies after school. And some days, it would be nice to get out of the house and go to a job that appreciates you.
There is no perfect mom. We need to get comfortable with who we are as a mom. And most importantly, we need to stop judging each other. Better than that, help each other. Stay at home moms can offer to pick up kids or rescue the working mom once in awhile. And working moms can do some double duty child care and let that stay at home mom get some alone time. We are a village and motherhood is a lot easier with the support of another mom.