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Mommy Shame

Guilt. I don't think any of us realized it came with motherhood.

Working moms feel they should be home with their kids.

Stay at home moms feel like they should be working.

New moms feel like they should be doing more tummy playtime or more enriching playgroups with baby.

We feel like we should bake more, volunteer more, help more with homework.

We should be more patient, play more with our kids and be more romantic in the bedroom.

We need to stop "should-ing" on ourselves. Please stop thinking that "the other mom" has it all together and you don't. None of us have it all together. None of us! We are all works in progress and these kids don't come with directions. Don't judge the mom who feeds her baby jarred food nor the one who makes it fresh daily. Don't look down on the mom who lets her kid watch tv nor the mom who won't let her child use any technology. Don't beat yourself up for getting your 4th grader an iphone or for being the mom who won't let her child walk home from school.

Motherhood doesn't come with a set of directions. While tv and websites might claim to have all of the answers; no one is in your shoes, with your circumstances, raising your child. Stop thinking that things are so much better at your neighbor's house.

The grass is not greener over there. It is greener where you water it.

If you are desiring more unplugged time with your family, then set up special family nights.

If you are desiring a more romantic life, then set up a date night or put on some sexy lingerie under those mommy jeans.

If you are desiring to be a better mom, just slow down and focus on what that means to you.

We get what we focus on. Motherhood is hard enough without the pressure from each other. Or ourselves for that matter. Be a village to other moms. And water your grass instead of looking over that fence today!