Remember when you just wished your baby would say "mommy"? That sweet sound sure feels different after the 1000th time.
Our children don't know about personal space. What's ours is theirs and they are in it! Yes, we know that this time is special but basically, it feels a bit like controlled chaos.
So, how can we find just a small piece of peace? Is there a me in mommy?
Here are 5 ways that you can preserve your sanity and grab some quiet time.
1) If at all possible, wake up 10 minutes earlier before your baby or children wake up. While each minute is precious, 10 minutes will not get you out of sleep deprivation. Use that ten minutes to sit with a cup of tea, write in a journal or to meditate. You will be amazed at what happens when you set the tone for your day.
2) Take a 4-count breath. There are moments in your day where you can do some breathing exercises. Nursing, driving, dishes. Goodness, do it on the toilet if you need to. Breathe in for 4 counts, relax around your held breath for 4 counts and release for 4 counts. Mindful breathing has been proven to be calming, energizing and reduces stress!
3) Mellow out your music. While it's fun to listen to the latest Lady GaGa hit, it may not be calming those mommy nerves. Consider for a moment listening to classical music or sounds of nature. Music is very powerful and can help reduce stress and create a calming environment. Set the mood to mellow!
4) Scent your stress away. Aromatherapy is one of the fastest growing fields in alternative medicine. Smell is the only sense that can bypass everything and go straight to the nervous system. Try any essential oil from lavender to cinnamon, from orange to lemon balm. Spray it in your car or put on your wrist in the morning. Or, just douse it any time your kids are making you melt down.
5) Take a mom-me time out. Time outs get a bad rap. Kids think of them as punishment but really they are a time and place to quiet the brain and regain your composure. Moms should consider taking a mommy time our regularly (like every day) so that mom can take a breath, reset and recharge.
P.S. - Be flexible when the best plans fall through. They do and they will. But keep remembering that your family is best of when YOU take care of YOU!